Behaviour that challenges often reflects unmet needs that the person with dementia can no longer express through words. This article explores what distress-based communication really means, including phrases like “I want to go home”, elopement and wandering, emotional logic, and how the Herbert Protocol can support safety. Practical suggestions help carers respond with curiosity, compassion, and confidence.
Resentment is one of the least spoken about but most common experiences in dementia caring. It often builds quietly as responsibilities increase, roles become entangled, and personal identity begins to fade. This article explores how resentment and co-dependent patterns develop, why they matter, and the practical steps that can help prevent exhaustion, burnout, and relationship strain.
In everyday British life, apologising is almost automatic, yet in a caring relationship it can feel confusing, unfair, or emotionally uncomfortable — especially when nothing appears to be the carer’s fault. This article explores why apologising can be so difficult, the difference between factual and emotional logic, and how gentle, well-chosen apologies can help soothe distress, reduce conflict, and strengthen connection. It offers practical guidance to help carers reframe “I’m sorry” as a compassionate tool rather than a sign of blame.